It was all a facade (pronounced fuh-kay-duh)

Anything, person, or issue that has a facade put up to hide what is really going on inside will almost always have that facade crumble because it is always harder to hide the truth than it is to reveal it.

Some examples that come to mind include: Leaders of Mega Churches who fall from grace like Ted Haggard, George W. Bush's compassionate conservatism, and Britney Spears's current tour...."Operation Effortless Rehabilitation." (with her its just a matter of time people...her crazy gene has the urge to splurge in public once again, I just know it)

Marriage has a facade as well, it starts with an "h"...if you're married and you think I'm talking about "happiness" then you're doing it wrong.

I'm not sure how much longer "heterosexuality" thinks it can "own" the institution, but its days are numbered.

Gay marriage is inevitable, its the direction our culture is moving toward and we have nobody to blame but ourselves. We owe them...just like we owe other disparate hyphenated American groups that continue to be marginalized by America's waning WASP culture. In return for taking their talents for granted they want to be an unconditionally accepted part of our society.

For example, we want illegal immigrants deported after they finish mowing our lawns, cleaning our toilets, and making our tacos (more than likely in that order) in hole in the wall restaurants on every other southern California street corner that doesn't make the final cut on the "reality" show The Hills. They have something to say about that and the clout to be heard, and this is the only reason that politicians think that keeping people who are de facto criminals in this country is at all debatable.

I would rather attend a week long symposium on whether the difference between Pepsi and Coke is more noticeable than the difference between Dr. Pepper and Mr. Pibb, at least then we are beginning to talk about something somewhat based in reality.

But I digress.

Gay people do our hair, decorate our homes, and make our clothes. They populate cooking shows on Bravo that educate us on how to spice up Pigs in a Blanket with a swath of cream cheese, and a dash of garlic salt mixed with vermouth......

Ok ok, I made that up, but the point remains that gay people think outside the box (if your mind lives in the gutter then congratulations, pun intended)

Moving along, because they don't typically have families gay people have way more disposable income than heterosexuals with families...making them a desirable market to corporations selling their wares.

And thanks to the slime ball men out there that didn't get the memo that the way to a woman's heart isn't through clubbing them and then dragging them to your cave, gay men have become the security blanket women have come to depend on when they just want go out and have a good time without wondering if the man they are with just wants to get into their pants, have a one night stand, hit it and quit it....

AKA: Preserving the sanctity of marriage.

Thats right, those who want to preserve the sanctity of this institution have no moral high ground to stand on when heterosexuals create drive-thru marriages in Vegas, and celebrities use it (and divorce) as attention whore tools for gossip mags, and make sex the new second base (assuming one is willing to even wait that long).

That said, until this issue is lead into battle by General Custer, I will side with what the definition of marriage has been, and should be, since the dawn of our time. Even after that has happened I will still argue for it. Just because something is inevitable doesn't mean you have to go along with it.

To a secular person changing the definition of marriage is a no-brainer, and I understand that to an extent. People who don't have a religious core are susceptible to accepting the gray areas of everything a lot more readily than those who live by actual moral guidelines.

I am not a secular person, I am a Christian, and while I answer to my friends about my vote in this life, I answer to someone else who is way more important than they are in the next.

My only other objection to gay marriage is from a governmental standpoint is the courts ruling by fiat that it should be allowed, which is what happened and got this big ball rolling in Massachusetts almost 5 years ago. I'm glad votes are being held, those in California that voted yes on prop 8 should celebrate while they can...because it will come back for a vote again, and it eventually will be overturned. I, for one, will accept its results.

I wish I could say the same for the other side, it seems the political left in this country is developing a nasty habit of throwing temper tantrums when election results don't go their way....other than continuing to convince me which side of the political spectrum the real adults are on what are they trying to accomplish with their post election bellyaching?